Returning to my roots with the keepers of the stories at my side…

A few weeks ago, my sister, Robin, and I were given the tremendous gift of getting to step back in time for a few days, and with our parents as our guides, revisited the place where we spent our earliest days – Evergreen, Colorado.

Although our time there was relatively short,  one would assume that we had lived there for decades, given the many stories Mom and Dad have shared with us throughout our lives.  Because of the many stories and the joy with which they have been shared,  I grew up knowing how significant this little mountain town was in my parents’ lives.

They were young, very young, 20 and 25, with a baby on the way (Robin), and were actually on their way to Oregon, simply on a “Why not?  It sounds like a nice place to live…” when they stopped in Denver to see my Mom’s parents.  While there, Dad found out that to teach high school music in Oregon, he needed a master’s degree (something that would come later and in Missouri), so they decided to stay in Denver.  Besides, with a baby on the way, it would be nice to have family nearby.  I love thinking about those carefree 20-somethings with a baby on the way, pointing their car and trailer’s belongings west, without really having much of a plan.  Somehow, it gives the many wing and a prayer plans I’ve had a bit more weight.

There were no teaching jobs in Denver, but while interviewing, a call came through from the principal in Evergreen with the news that the high school music teacher had not renewed his contract and through the perfect timing of a synchronistic moment, my Dad had a job and their plans to continue their journey west to Oregon were shortened to the short 30 minute drive west from Denver to the scenic mountain town of Evergreen.

Robin and I have both heard the stories, countless times, of our time in Evergreen, but to get to hear them again, with the soil underfoot, was truly a gift.  Hearing about Dad coasting down the mountain from Evergreen to St. Anthony’s hospital in Denver, my Mom in labor with me, made a lot more sense as we recently made our way down from Evergreen to Denver  – an easy coast of a drive that was a necessary choice on that day, almost 60 years go to the date, as the gas tank was near empty (he made it with fumes to spare, I’m told…).

Although Robin and I had tried to find the house we lived in when we were in Colorado last summer,  our interpretation of Mom and Dad’s directions had us on the wrong end of the town. Still, with their keen memories and navigational skills, we drove right to the house a few weeks ago.  Both of our initial reactions upon seeing the lovely home that sat off the road on five acres were… “wait… I thought we were poor.” ….  Yes, they reassured us… We were poor.  They said it looked like the house had been added on to and that while it looked nice on the outside, the inside had needed work… work that Dad chipped away at when he had the gift of both time and money.   The furnishings were sparse, and although Mom had a wringer washing machine, she didn’t have a dryer, so after washing the clothes, diapers in particular, with two under the age of two, she’d hang them out on the line, where they would freeze dry in the arid air.  She’d then bring them in and lay them throughout the house to thaw.  For some reason, I’ve always connected with pioneer women and have sworn that I must have lived during that period of time in a past life.  This explains it.  I did.

As we sat in the drive and looked directly at our past, hearing the stories from the ones that created them, that piece of my past, that I don’t remember, became real, and I understood where my love for mountains was born.  Dad told us that when Mom was pregnant with me, she told him that she was not going to come home from the hospital until we had a flushing toilet IN the house.  Yes, these adventure-seeking parents of mine were using an outhouse, not to mention transporting their water in  50-gallon drums.  Dad worked tirelessly at digging the leeching well near the house in preparation for my arrival, using a pickaxe, a shovel, and his favorite tool, dynamite.  And lo and behold, Mom had the flush toilet she had requested upon her arrival home from the hospital with me.  Simple times, but not all that simple a request.  Still, every mom just home from the hospital with a newborn and a one-year-old to greet her deserves the luxury of an indoor toilet —and one that flushes, no less.  It sure beat any “congratulations on your new baby” flower arrangement Dad could have gotten her.

Out of the many stories I’ve heard over the years, and my hands-down favorite, I heard for the first time last year.  Because evergreen trees surrounded us, Dad would go to the woods behind the house to select the Christmas tree, then drag it down to the house.  I believe it was my first Christmas (and if it wasn’t, I’m taking artistic license here) that Mom questioned the tree he brought home, wondering if he could have found a tree that was just a little bit prettier.  So, on his way home from work the following day, the perfect tree came into view with the lights of his car.  He cut it down, put it in the car, and as he was pulling away, his car lights gave him a better view of exactly where the tree he had just cut down had come from… the landscaping in the front yard of one of the summer vacation homes in the area.  When I asked him what he did after discovering what he had done, he told me that he couldn’t exactly put it back, so he covered the stump with snow and drove home.  Given that it was a summer vacation home,  he had several months before the missing tree would be noticed.  No doubt some of that guilt waned with Mom’s overwhelmingly positive reaction to the beautiful specimen of a tree that would grace our small living room that Christmas.

“Now THAT’s what I had in mind!  It’s the PERFECT tree!”

Dad had set the Christmas decor bar high on this one…
I don’t know how long it was before he came clean on exactly where the tree had come from, and I am betting that the following Christmas, it was back to the scrappy juniper Christmas trees.  All of our Christmas trees in those early Colorado days were decorated with pine cones that Mom had spray-painted gold.  It was only in later years that I understood the significance of Mom insisting on adding what we thought at the time were “the tacky gold spray-painted pine cones” to our then more lavishly decorated trees.  It was a nudge to the memory of where they began as a family, and although times were very tough, they were also very good.

I love hearing their humble roots stories—two kids with two babies eking out a living in the mountains of Evergreen, Colorado.  Funds were so tight that when a job offer in northern Missouri came in for far more money and an unlimited high school band budget, Dad had to say yes.  He has told me several times that when they drove out of town for the last time on their way to Missouri, he had hoped for a rainy, cloudy day or at least weather that was overcast enough so that he wouldn’t have to see the mountains in his rearview mirror.  It was sunny that day.   To this day, I think both Mom and Dad would agree that it felt like the mountains were waving goodbye to them as they left them in the rear view mirror.

What a gift it was to return to those Evergreen mountains just as they had left them so many years ago, and better yet, to get to return with the keepers of the stories.  Although I was always a part of the stories,  I feel a real sense of their connection to me now.

My Evergreen, Colorado roots
Mom and Dad… who still have a bit of that Colorado spirit in them….

The screened-in porch I bought with the attached house.

Last summer, I bought a condo in Frisco, Colorado, instead of the book I had gone into the local store to purchase. I sit here on my screened-in porch in Kansas, I realize that I bought a porch with a house attached to it as it was the porch that sold me on the house.

Upon stepping into the front room and taking in the porch at first glance, I looked at my daughter, Emery, and it’s possible we both said it at the same time…
“You/I live here!”
I wasn’t actively looking for a house at the time, as the house I was currently in was fine, but this house was in a charming, treed neighborhood with a strong sense of history and appreciation for local merchants.   It was a neighborhood I had wanted to live in before I got married (in 1985), but my hopes were set aside when it didn’t have the same appeal to my then-husband that it did to me.

How ironic that when I walked up the stairs of the condo in Frisco and saw it for the first time, my daughter-in-law, Brooke, said the exact words to me, “You LIVE here!” yet I don’t recall making that connection at the time or maybe I did but didn’t dwell on it as I had already fast forwarded myself right out onto the deck and what it would be like to live there.  Both my daughter and my daughter-in-law seem to have an uncanny knack for sensing me living in places that aren’t yet mine.

After Emery and I had both declared our intentions for the house, I told my real estate agent, Nina, that I wanted to buy it. Nina and I have been friends for decades, and she knows me and knows that my default position leans more towards impulsive than methodical.  She thought looking at the rest of the house would be a wise idea before we started writing up a contract, which we did, both of us knowing full well that I would be buying the house for the screened-in porch, regardless of what the rest of the house looked like. After a quick walk through, and pleased that the rest of the house was on par with the porch, I told her again that I was ready to write up an offer.

“But it’s the first house you’ve looked at…you can’t just buy the first house you look at!”
“OK… then show me another one, then we’ll make an offer.”

And so she did. There was a house nearby for sale, and as lovely as the garden was, as I walked up to the front door, I knew it wouldn’t be the right house, regardless.  After a quick walk through the main level, I told Nina that I had seen enough and was ready to make an offer on the porch house

I had an extended trip to Peru coming up in a matter of weeks, and fortunately, Nina was able to convince the sellers to delay the closing until my return, a few months later.  The entire process, from contract negotiations to inspection, went off without a hitch.  I genuinely believe, and experience has confirmed this for me, that when something is meant to be, things fall into place neatly and in a timely manner.  It’s when you’re met with obstacle after obstacle that I think the decision should be questioned. I was meant to live in that house and sit on that porch.
About a month later, from an internet cafe in Villa el Salvador, Peru, I sold the house I was currently living in. While sitting at a computer in a dimly lit, hot, small room with a handful of teenaged boys enjoying computer games, I muddled my way through the process of signing a contract, then faxed it and waited for confirmation of receipt, with a minimal Spanish business vocabulary and a growing line of impatient school boys waiting their turn for the computer I was using.  It was one of my prouder accomplishments, especially given that short of email and some photo and music storage, I really wasn’t very computer savvy.

The house I sold to buy the screened-in porch house was the first and only house I looked at shortly after filing for divorce.  Maybe it was beginner’s luck that continued, but I knew right off that it was the right house for me.  My real estate agent at the time did the same thing that Nina had done and showed me several similar houses, after my proclamation of wanting to buy the first one I saw because “you can’t buy the first one!”  I ended up returning to the original house, as I knew I would,  made an offer, and was signing contracts by the end of the day.   There’s a pattern here, and now I understand why my sister wouldn’t let me go house hunting in the Adirondacks with her husband, John, “just to look…”

When it’s right, it’s right, and you know it in your heart and gut.  Seriously, I’ve given more thought to a pair of jeans while sitting in the dressing room at the GAP, a situation that rarely gets it right the first time or has me saying, “You live in those jeans!”

In the time it took me to type this, I would still be deciding on the jeans.  I’ve bought houses in a shorter amount of time.

The porch that I bought and was lucky that a house was attached to it…